Be Kind to You

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Be kind to yourself before taking care of your partner’s needs…

Love and kindness starts with you being kind and loving to you.

Sometimes people take on projects and invest all their time, energy and resources in their partners because they don’t feel worthy or important enough to give love or attention to themselves.  

Sometimes they choose to do this because they want to distract themselves from facing what needs their attention in their own life.

Regardless of what’s behind this behavior, the truth is that they often end up feeling unappreciated, dissatisfied and bitter.

The way you treat yourself tells others how to treat you.

Take care of yourself.  

Be respectful of your needs and wants; others will follow that route and as a result everybody ends up feeling happy.

– Dr. Simone

Listen with Love

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If you listen to your partner with love, there is always something in what they say that you can agree with.

When your partner shares something with you, an opinion, idea or plan, do not start with saying “no” or telling them all that you disagree with them on.

How about acknowledging them with saying something nice about what they said, or how they said it.

If you listen with love, there is always something in what they say that you can agree with.  

And if there really is nothing to agree on, then pause and say something like:

“That’s an interesting idea,”

“I had never thought about it in that way,”

“I haven’t looked at it from that angle,”

“Tell me more,”

or “I’ll think about it.” 

Always start with a positive attitude and you will be surprised how much easier it is going to be to talk about your disagreements and how much more accepting they will be of your viewpoints.  

– Dr. Simone

Show your Appreciation

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Show your love to your partner, show your appreciation of who they are and what they do for you.

Smile, touch, kiss.  Send little text messages or call during the day to show that they are important to you and that you are there for them.  If you do these things and they don’t, then talk about it and tell them how much it will mean to you if they do the same.  Remind them to engage in those acts of love as often and kindly as you can.  And always keep in mind your expiration date for the relationship that is failing to improve.  If they actively invest in making your relationship more enjoyable and pleasant as you do, that’s a good sign!  But, if they are not so inclined, move on.

– Dr. Simone

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What is Clean Revenge?

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I know of only one way to REVENGE our enemies and those who wish us ill without attracting undesirable consequences to our own lives.

That REVENGE is clean and gives you the best feeling you could have ever imagined. 

Curious to know what it is?  

Look ahead rather than getting stuck in your past, don’t let your past sufferings dictate your future steps, succeed in whatever direction you desire, make your life a happy one, make good money, choose the right romantic partner with whom you can enjoy your life, learn new things, improve yourself in whatever way is meaningful to you, travel, get your dream occupation, engage in sports, arts, socialization and whatever makes you happy, make a difference in others’ lives, create, invent, sing, dance, play joyfully, …

When your enemies hear about or even better, see where you are now, be sure that they will suffer; a suffering not caused by you or your ill intentions but as a result of your success and happiness!  

Now that’s called a clean revenge!

– Dr. Simone

‘Sameness’ is a Myth

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‘Sameness’ is a myth: the idea that we are all the same and want the same things, that there is a certain RIGHT way to go about life and relationships.  WRONG!

There are only ways that work for you and those that do not work for you. 

That’s all.

We are different, and like and dislike different things.  

You cannot blame your prospective or current romantic partners for not feeling, being or doing as you do.  

Do not forget that they have the right to be different: to be themselves, to be and do as they choose.  

It is not up to you to dictate to them the right way of living.  

Do not persist desperately in trying to make it work if your values are far apart.  

The only outcome of that kind of insistence will be disappointment, bitterness, and misery for both sides.

– Dr. Simone